You may have seen a friend of yours on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or Tumblr post a picture with an arrow pointing to their icon saying, “This person will not be seeing 50 Shades of Grey. Because I refuse to encourage or promote domestic violence, rape culture, and the spreading of misleading information about BDSM.”

The problem with “Fifty Shades of Grey” isn’t that it’s a book about a problematic subject like rape, or showcasing incorrect BDSM. The problem is the movie and book doesn’t present it as such.

No, I will not shut up about “50 Shades of Grey.”

Abusive and controlling behavior is just that. The supporters of this masquerade are claiming “50 Shades of Grey” is “just a book,” or “just a movie.” But it’s message is a damaging one; disguising abusive power as a form of love.

Let’s recap a little on the plot:

Christian Grey meets Anna. He becomes infatuated and obsessed with her. He finds out where she works and shows up there unannounced. He tracks her phone one night and confronts her on the street. Mr. Grey even goes into her home, without her permission, and moseys on into her bedroom.

When they start “dating” it gets worse. He completely controls her like a little sex puppet. He confuses her and plays with her emotions. Grey even refuses to sleep next to her after they have sex. Ana is upset by how he treats her, and looks at a happy couple that are actually in a healthy relationship.

I may be delusional, but I’m 100 percent sure “50 Shades of Grey” is not an example of a healthy relationship.

Stalking, controlling, withdrawing affection and love in exchange for pain and the “unconventional,” as Mr. Grey puts it, is unhealthy.

Fifty Shades of Grey is being released for Valentine’s Day, so you’ll think it’s a romance, but don’t fall for it. The movie is actually about a sick, dangerous relationship filled with physical and emotional abuse.

Abuse is not glamorous or cool. It is never OK, under any circumstances.

Instead of going to see the movie donate money to an organization that helps bring awareness about sexual abuse and help those who have already been hurt. #50dollarsnot50shades

For more information about where to find help if you or someone you know has been a victim of sexual violence, contact the Sac State Health Services Center located inside the WELL.