SPICY TAKES: Butt play doesn’t make you gay
February 20, 2019
Reader be advised: Sierra’s Spicy Takes is, as the kids might say, NSFW. Read at your own discretion.
My good friend David has been watching a weird Hulu show called Letterkenny. Last night he got me hooked. There was a cold open that I felt especially encapsulates this exact question.
Q: My boyfriend wants me to fuck him with a strap-on, does that make him gay?
- Snoopy
A: Short answer, no.
The only thing that would make your boyfriend gay would be if he were attracted to men. That’s literally the only thing because that’s all being gay means.
Cisgendered males have a thing called a prostate. I think of it as a boy clit. I’m personally pretty jealous of them if we’re being completely transparent. However, it’s located up their buttholes which is a problem for a lot of dudes.
As I talked about last week, in my experience, boys don’t usually want things in their butts, but some do. It’s definitely not a weird request and I would not be concerned about your boyfriend being gay because he’s asking for that.
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It might not even be about his prostate at all. It might be about power dynamics and dominance/subordinance play.
There’s literally no way for us to know without asking so if you haven’t asked him why he wants it, I would suggest starting there.
At the end of the day, you’re the one that would have to strap up, so if it makes you uncomfortable to the extent that you wouldn’t be open to trying it, that’s also completely your right.
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David • May 9, 2019 at 11:40 am
I have read through your article several time. I find this subject quite interesting. First off I feel rather perplexed by your need to use the term cisgendered. Does this mean only herosexual males have a prostate? If so why do gay men enjoy anal sex so much? All men have prostates, barring those born with a deformation or those whom have it removed surgically usually do to prostate cancer. Secondly simply finding men attractive does not make someone gay, your actions determine who you are. If I like to think about killing people does that make me a murderer?third I understand you “like to think of it as a boy clit” but if you had done any research you would find that it is more along the lines of a male g-spot or skeens gland. The tissue that forms the clit in females would be very similar to the tissue that forms the male penis. Therfore I don’t know why you would be jealous because male or female we have similar erogenous zones. Yes men have one located within their anus, and for some this is taboo, but we are different yet equal. Whether or not you are gay or straight you can enjoy your prostate. It does however make you a sodomite.
Peggy • Feb 20, 2019 at 10:18 pm
My boyfriend and I do butt play all the time. It started not even a year ago, but to see if we like it. We do and coming from someone who will go out of her way to wearing a strap on it’s a different kind of intimacy. My boyfriend enjoys it because he says it feels amazing on his prostate. He’s not attracted to men. He just likes his butt being touch.