Reader be advised: Sierra’s Spicy Takes is, as the kids might say, NSFW. Read at your own discretion.

This past week you may have noticed the absence of Spicy Takes. I was devastated too.

I don’t really feel the need to explain myself, but regardless I’d like to talk about why because I know I’m not the only person experiencing these things.

Have you ever had one of those friends who had her shit so together you just kind of basked in her glory? Wendy is that friend for me. She’s got her whole life together.

Until this past month, she was subjected to something extremely traumatic by someone she thought she could trust.

Even with me, she tends to have a harder exterior. She’s a type A personality and is the type of person to just keep working and producing even if they’re mentally miserable.

I have seen this strong and independent woman struggle more in the past week than I have ever seen her struggle.

Wendy has been understandably distraught (by her own standards) which has given me a very rare opportunity to try to be there for her in whatever way she needs.

A lot of this has just been listening. Some of it has been helping her to stay motivated with her recent goals of growth. A bit of it has been letting her dad pay for tickets to Disneyland.

Helping her realize that other’s actions are in no way a measure of who she is as a person.

If you’re in a Wendy phase of your life I want you to read that again. Your worth cannot be measured by the way that people treat you.

However, in the process of all of this comfort and support, I managed to neglect myself.

So if you’re in the supportive friend phase, please remember to stop and breathe. You are only helpful to your friend if you can be there for them. You can only be there for them if you’re OK.

Which is why I’m back, bitches! Let’s get into Spicy Takes.

Q: Do men like it when you moan loudly during sex even if you are faking it? Sometimes I feel like I’m moaning because they like it and other times I’m feeling myself. Is quiet sex okay?

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A: I am 1000 percent over worrying about what men want in bed.  

That’s not true, but still. You should moan because you like it or you enjoy giving that gift to your partner.

If they don’t like it, that’s up to them to tell you. You shouldn’t have to worry and guess if they’re enjoying themselves.

Being communicative about your sex life is hot.

If that means moaning during sex, then so be it. If that means staying completely silent but then expressing gratitude afterward, then so be it. Whatever floats your boat, I guess.

What I’m saying is quiet sex is just fine. Sometimes it’s a requirement. Sometimes it’s fun to challenge yourself. If you’re me, you’ll fail, but the punishment will be just as sweet.