What happened to basing a relationship on trust?

State Hornet Staff

The nine-time Grammy award-winning artist Mary J. Blige has revealed an essential rule about friendships outside of her marriage when she was interviewed by Stella magazine: “All females for me, all guys for him.” Ouch.

Blige claims that a husband having “female friends” or a wife having “guy friends” never works in a marriage. Apparently, her husband is on board with the terms and conditions applied in their relationship.

Seriously? I thought we lived in the 21st century.

It could be because Blige is an artist who has been living in the spotlight. After many years of working in the music industry, she has collaborated with beautiful and talented men like herself. I would be lying if I said I didn’t dream about the yummy Trey Songz, an artist Blige has featured on her 2010 track “We Got Hood Love.”

Her husband Kendu Isaacs, who also happens to be her manager, is probably used to being around equally beautiful and talented female celebrities like Blige. In an industry driven by sex, looks and money, it probably brings a perspective to a marriage that the majority of the population is unfamiliar with.

Agreed. Temptation can be a bitch for any relationship, but completely eliminating members of the opposite sex from one’s circle of friends seems both extreme and almost impossible.

Surely, Blige did not make her millions by avoiding friendships with other male music artists and producers. How else would a person thrive in the cutthroat music industry? Her career would not be where it is today if she avoided mingling with male professionals at album release parties and cocktail mixers.

In normal work situations, we are constantly interacting with members of the opposite sex: meetings, group projects, customers, etc. Creating a healthy and connected work environment requires us to get to know our co-workers, both male and female. We cannot simply ignore them completely. In order for things to run smoothly, we have to at least be friendly with them.

Outside of the workplace it is just as unlikely. Even if we were to limit ourselves to spending time with only female (or male) friends, surely they might also have a significant other of their own. As a friend, it seems like a selfish move to tell them, “Hey, never introduce me to your love interest. If I develop a friendship with them, I might be too tempted to sleep with him (or her).” Come on now, do you really lack the ability to control your sexual cravings?

What happened to basing a relationship on trust? Perhaps that is what Blige’s marriage lacks.

In order to put such a rule in place, someone was clearly burned in a past relationship. Or perhaps one of these two lovebirds did the burning. Either way, maybe these two just are not “relationship material.”

Having control over each other’s social groups is not a way to live. Friendships with the opposite sex are inevitable.

Newsflash, Blige. Not every woman is out to screw your husband, and not every man is plotting to jump in them jeans.