Dating doctor gives advice on relationships


Dating Doctor David Coleman describes his “ABC’s of initial interest” during a show in the Union hosted by Unique. Coleman said that within five mintues of meeting someone one must examine their attraction, believability, chemistry, and desire to determine if they should further persue that individual.

Justyce Mirjanovic

Sacramento State students were lucky enough to receive relationship advice from the dating doctor himself, David Coleman.

Coleman has done over 3,500 shows worldwide on college campuses and also spends a lot of his time entertaining the military.

The brave students who showed up to get advice from the dating doctor did not expect to laugh so hard and be so entertained.

“I was interested because I’ve been in relationships, so I wanted to know what he had to say,” said freshman speech pathology major Rebecca Snyder.

He started off the show with a few of the worst and most inappropriate pickup lines he had ever heard to break the ice and make everyone feel comfortable.

He then proceeded to say he did not care if someone was gay, straight, lesbian or bisexual, no one knows what they are going through until they have walked a mile in their shoes.

“I don’t care what you are,” Coleman said. “I care that you are here.”

When someone sees a person and thinks they are attractive he calls this person a “hmm” as in “Hmm, that one could be for me.”

Coleman stressed the importance of confidence when gathering courage to speak to someone. When a person finally finds their “hmm” there are a lot of things that can make or break a relationship.

“Stay out of their room,” Coleman said. “If you don’t know exactly what you are sexually, romantically, physically, stay out of their room.”

Every couple should have a “safeword” in case things are going too far and one of the two in the relationship is not ready.

If a person finds someone attractive and wants to see if it can go somewhere, spend only one hour with them because if things do not go smoothly, it was only one bad hour, Coleman advises. If it goes good, spend only one more hour with them because things can still go downhill.

In college, a lot of people may feel they have been “friend-zoned” and wonder if the other person thinks of them romantically.

“If you are physically attracted to someone, romantically interested or they can make you mad or jealous by what they do, you can not be friends with them,” Coleman said.

One would need to ask themselves if the friendship is too important to ruin and if they can handle seeing the other person with someone else. Otherwise, they may risk the friendship to see if it can go somewhere.

Coleman briefly talked about online dating and said he met his wife on such a website. The last day of his account being active was the first day of his wife’s dating account being active and he decided to give it one last shot and message her.

“405 people messaged her that day and she wrote me back. I know have game,” he joked.

This goes to show that dating online can have a happy ending.

Long distance relationships, on the other hand, do not usually have a happy ending. Fifty percent fail within the first year, and the main reason is because the couple forces communication everyday, according to Coleman.

“Every day you get better at being apart,” Coleman said.

When going through a tough breakup, he said the best thing to do is to date, have distance, activity, time, and exit.

Coleman said someone needs distance because they chose to lose you, activity so one does not sit around and think, time because it is going to take time to feel normal again, and exit because one needs to exit on their own terms.

Coleman has a talent for giving people advice in a way that makes them understand, while having a blast and laughing at the same time.

“He was really funny. I enjoyed his show,” said freshman pre-nursing major Alyssa Poley.

Coleman has been honored 14 times as The National Speaker of the Year by Campus Activities Magazine and The National Association for Campus Activities and and is the only speaker ever to be honored as the National Entertainer of the Year.

“It was really informative and like funny,” Snyder said. “It was serious, but you were laughing.”