We are a generation of codependents.

Too much love, not enough love, who knows why. But we do know that nobody likes to sleep alone

We are in college, a time of education and indulgence. Dating is a social norm, and here, we’re supposed to experience everything.

So why do we have to only be with one person? What makes a monogamous commitment more valid or worthy than other relationships?

Senior English major, Keyko Torres has been with her boyfriend for two years.

In January, they decided to have an open-relationship.

“There is enough trust and communication in our relationship where we’re not afraid to be honest with each other about other people,” she said. “We just trust each other enough that it just doesn’t pose itself as a significant problem.”

Torres has genuinely tried to make monogamy work, but just doesn’t think she’s wired for it.

She believes in commitment just as much as anyone only seeing one person, though.

There is an immeasurable difference between polyamory and infidelity.

Essentially, polyamory is an open relationship between consenting adults. It involves honesty, love and trust, just like monogamy.

Infidelity is cheap, dishonest and passe.

The two are not interchangeable, nor should they be confused.

If we were to be honest with ourselves and to our nature, polyamory would be a lot less controversial. We’re not designed to be with one person.

Instead, we stay in unsatisfying relationships, out of fear or comfort, and cheat instead of breaking up.

This is counter-intuitive. We should be encouraged to be honest, open and safe in our relationships.

We have been conditioned to believe that monogamy is the ideal we should strive for.

Since childhood, we’ve been promised that we each have a soul mate somewhere, waiting for us. Once we meet, we will be emotionally fulfilled and completely satisfied.

This is a lie.

By nature, we are not monogamous beings.

Government professor Andrew Hertzoff teaches Thomas More’s Utopia. The monogamous world aims to minimize social conflict, and reduce human drama.

“Even in a monogamous relationship, when you have two people involved, there’s gonna be a whole lot of conflict,” Hertzoff said. “So when you add one, or two, or three people, that conflict will only escalate.”

Hertzoff explains that citizens of More’s ideal world would prefer more than one partner.

But society is made perfect by very conscious efforts, including monogamy. In this country, however, the commitment to marriage has become disposable.

Dr. Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology said that half of all first marriages end in divorce. Two-thirds of all second marriages don’t last. And only one-quarter of third marriages do.

Worse, at least 40 percent of women and 60 percent of men have an affair while married, Peggy Vaughan states in her book, The Monogamy Myth.

Maybe if we enslaved adulterers and enforced eternal celibacy for premarital sex, people would value their commitments. It worked in Utopia.

Not everyone wants to be monogamous.

There is no question that there are innumerable monogamous relationships that are successful and passionate and timeless.

My parents have been married for 32 years. They were each others’ first loves. Some things last a long time.

But monogamy does not entail moral righteousness beyond other types of relationships. For some, it is limiting.

Those who are not satisfied by our societal standard should not be curbed by it.

Commitment is not what defines love. Love is the absolute.

Some people are capable of mutually and consensually expressing their love in ways different than others. Reserve judgment.

We do not need to understand the way other people love, to respect it. Even if it means they are getting more action than us.