It’s your first date and it’s amazing. You’ve got this great feeling that this person could be the one, but how long do you wait to have sex? Should it be after the first date, a few weeks, or even months?

With smiles and vulnerability by your side, your night continues. You start to get that feeling in the pit of your stomach, a nervousness you only get when you realize you really like someone.

It is the end of the night, and you’re back at your place, together. Things start getting intimate; kissing, touching and clothes flying off the end of the bed. Now your heart starts to race and your conscience is going crazy.

Do you throw your inhibitions to the wind and go for it, or try to collect yourself and your underwear from the floor, reminding yourself that you don’t want to feel like a slut in the morning? Or should you?

What is wrong with a little sex, now or in four months? I’ve always been open to what feels right in my heart to be the right choice. But I guess in this case, my heart isn’t the one making the choice.

Society tells women to wait if possible. We’re not supposed to have sex before marriage, and if we do it on the first date, we’re whores.

Men, on the other hand, can be called studs for having sex on the first date. Having multiple partners brands them as “players,” and it tells them it’s OK as long as they use condoms.

Is this a double standard? Yes! I believe what goes for a male should go just the same for a female. Each person is responsible for his or her own actions and should not judge or be judged by anyone else.

If for others this means saving yourself for marriage, then more power to you! For myself, I have chosen the other route and don’t think I could ever have it another way. I think it’s great to wait a few months after you have been dating to make the huge hump into the orgasm world to make sure you’re making the right decision. On the other hand, if sex on the first date is your thing, then cheers to you.

I have never been one to care about the rules of society telling me when I “should” sleep with someone. I make my decision when the feeling, chemistry and time are right for me. I think if everyone does what feels right for them, they will be happier in the end.

If there is any uncertainty, then waiting is always the best choice. You never want to have sex to make someone else happy. Remember that sex is a two-way street and two-way pleasure.

If it’s the first date and the sexual chemistry is right, who cares what society says? Go for it! It should only be between you and that other person at that moment. Sex is a natural and beautiful thing. Why not enjoy?

Here are a few things I think are good to stand by: Don’t let others pressure you, don’t let alcohol influence you, always use protection and when your body tells you it’s time, always make it orgasmic!

Shauvon Torres can be reached at [email protected]