Everyone experiences let downs throughout their lives. Large or small, they&re inevitable. When these disappointments happen under your covers, they can change the course of a seemingly perfect courtship.

For many ladies, it sounds all too familiar. He&s caring, listens to you complain about work and even pretends to like your dog. He says the right things and makes your body tremble when he touches you.

You hold out as long as you can, until you&ve got to have it. First date or thirtieth, it doesn&t matter, you&re ready for the magic you&re sure is going to happen & and then it doesn&t.

He poked aimlessly, was unexpectedly small, couldn&t get it or keep it up, or fulfilled the stereotype of the &one-minute man.& What ever your complaint, you leave feeling like you&ve wasted your time and dreading your next interaction.

Men, of course, can also be disappointed. It could have been her porn star clothes and talk or secret piercing that makes him believe he was in for the time of his life, only to find a shy girl who was reluctant to be an active participant in the sex.

It could be the wait, the anticipation, and her great personality that made you hope for perfection and be disappointed when the two of your sexual personalities just don&t match up.

The crucial question: Can there still be a relationship after bad sex?

Maybe. Let&s be realistic here, you would not throw out your beautiful new shoes because they gave you a blister. No, you would wear them again and again, a process we call &breaking them in.& This is the same approach you should take to your lovable, yet inexperienced bedmate.

It may be that he or she lacks confidence or is nervous about this first encounter. Because of this, a second and third try could be worthwhile.

Many men are aware of obvious shortcomings (no pun intended) in bed and if it&s small or he ejaculates prematurely, he knows about it. What he might not know about, is how to work with, or around, the problem.

Women, many of whom become wrapped up in their sexual worries, may need coercing in the way of compliments and suggestion for them to open up.

Use positive reinforcement during sex to boost their confidence and break their shell. If there&s no opportunity to use these tools, then communication becomes crucial.

Talk about sex with your partner, find out why he or she does or doesn&t live up to your desires in bed. Maybe he bites you because his ex found it orgasmic but, if you hate it, you must gently let him know.

No matter what the problem is, don&t complain without being prepared to offer a solution.

If you want it to last longer suggest, a male genital desensitizing cream. If you want more action, suggest new positions.

If, after all of your hard work and communication, the sex continues to rub you the wrong, get rid of your partner, or as you would do with the shoes, pass he or she on to a friend whom they may fit better.

Everyone experiences let downs throughout their lives. Large or small, they&re inevitable. When these disappointments happen under your covers, they can change the course of a seemingly perfect courtship.