Getting into a relationship isn’t the hard part, it’s learning how to maintain one that will wear on your nerves. As women, we will go to great lengths to keep a man: cook, clean and maybe even wash his dirty clothes, but maybe men need more.

As humans, we are all sexual creatures, some more than others so one should never doubt the power of being a freak. Being a freak can open up emotions and unlock a sexual prowess you never knew you had.

Before getting all bent out of shape, consider this for a moment: If you’re not willing to be free sexually for your significant other then who are you going to be sexually free with?

As the old saying goes if you don’t do it, he’ll find someone else who will and that introduces a whole new host of problems.

And in terms of this article the emphasis is especially placed on the world you’re in and what appears to be a stable and dare I say long-term relationship, then go get your yoga on and try that new position. I’ll bet you didn’t know you could bend that way, now did you?

According to Essence.com, breaking the monotony is key in one’s sex life.

As an overly sexualized society, too much emphasis is placed on being comfortable with sex and sexuality. Every month Cosmopolitan magazine introduces new ways to please your man.

There’s nothing wrong with that as long as the individual knows his or her own boundaries.

I’m not advocating adding anal sex to the roster, not unless you’re comfortable, but I am saying that some of that kiddy stuff has to go out the window. Let’s start with oral sex, and this goes both ways so don’t think I’m going to harp on just one gender.

Ladies, let’s face it: If we’re going to get down and dirty with a man, nine times out of 10 fellatio is going to be a part of the equation and if you’re comfortable in your breathing techniques and gag reflexes, I say take the plunge!

And men, if I have to hear that 16-year-old excuse: “I don’t go down.” My response? What is it that you do? Not me apparently.

Take that extra time and browse the sex section at your local Borders because you never know what you may find. Sure, Kama Sutra looks a bit risqué in the light of day but go ahead and take some of those moves home and I guarantee your man will thank you – over and over again!

According to Cosmopolitan.com, kinky sex is just one of the seven kinds of sex that every couple needs. These extreme measures may have to be taken to ensure that the man in your life will stay in your life.

The bottom line is that if you’re looking to keep that special person in your life then you have to let some of those sexual hang-ups go. Be more comfortable being a sexual creature; we all know that if you’re not willing to do it your significant other will find someone who will.

So while there are naysayers that turn their noses up at the mere thought of a little female domination in the bedroom, sadly those are probably the women alone on a Saturday night.

Oneika Richardson can be reached at [email protected]