Faking the habit

Casey Farrell:

Casey Farrell:

Casey Farrell

Would you give a dog a treat if he or she didn’t obey your command to sit?

Now, would fake an orgasm for your man if he didn’t actually help you achieve one?

A woman’s fake orgasm is much less discernible than a man’s – for obvious reasons – but being able to fake an orgasm really isn’t a skill that anyone should be proud of.

More times than men would like to believe, women fake orgasms, and they do it for various reasons.

Sometimes it just takes too long and your guy might look like he’s working really hard, but it’s just not working for you and you’re frustrated, so out of pity you squeal a little and say: “Oh yeah, that was good, baby.” In other cases, you might just want the experience to end, and so you give a finishing performance to get the heck out of there. Other times you may be just stroking his ego. You know he wants to make you climax, but you’re just not that into it. And lastly, some of you may not know what makes you climax, but because you’ve seen orgasms in the movies you think that you’re supposed to be having one every time you have sex.

Whatever the reasons you fake, ladies, you’re only cheating yourself. Why pretend to reach an orgasm, when with a little more time and research you can really reach one?

If you are pretending to have an orgasm while having sex with your partner, he is going to think he is doing something right and he is going continue to use that technique because, to him, it seems to work.

Faking doesn’t work for everybody in the relationship; if your partner found out that you weren’t really being pleased he’d be disappointed, at the least.

“If my girlfriend admitted to faking with me, I’d feel like I wasn’t doing my job as a boyfriend,” criminal justice junior Brandon Olivaria said.

Believe it or not, a lot of guys like to know that they’re pleasing their woman and, personally, I think it turns them on to know that they can make a female cry out in pleasure.

By not being open with your sexual partner you are hurting your relationship and hindering the levels of pleasure you could be reaching together by being honest about what feels good to you and what does the trick to finish you off.

“If you have to fake your orgasm, maybe you shouldn’t be in an intimate relationship with that person,” communication studies junior Cristian Tapia said.

Take your time: You and your partner should figure out what works to bring you both to climax together. It may take some time and energy, but anything that good is worth working for. Don’t give in to the fake, unless you want to encourage bad habits.

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