Mind-blowing sex can be the anytime and everyday added benefit to a relationship, but if the relationship ends with a break up, should you keep receiving the goods?

Without a warm body in bed and a yearning desire to be satisfied, you’re faced with three decisions; self stimulation from the secret bottle hiding in the drawer next to you, a one-night stand or making the dreadful call to an ex.

We all love to be satisfied and some believe “break-up sex” is the safest and easiest way to get laid. It’s someone you know deeply, trust and won’t feel insecure laying naked in bed with.

But I believe there are more unpleasant outcomes than orgasmic ones. I admit I have been a fan of break-up sex in the past, but all it did was give me two seconds of pleasure with added months of continuous emotional pain.

In the past, I would be glad I ended the relationship; I’m now a free woman, I can go out, flirt, and never answer to anyone. But, after lonely girl-night outings, some like to rely on something more, the infamous “booty call.”

Eric Chang, a senior majoring in economics, said: “I don’t agree with break-up sex, but I’m doing it now. Me and my ex were together for four years, now broken up, it just feels right, because it’s natural and we know each other, even though I know we shouldn’t.”

Since I never had intentions of bringing anyone home from a bar, I did what most do. Like Eric, I would pick up the phone, make the call, and, after a half hour, I was content and sound asleep.

The day or week after isn’t so bad, but the repercussions are right around the corner. One is jealousy; giving it up to your ex and being obsessed with not having control over what he or she does and with whom, like you could when you were together. Also, having feelings of being used, no phone calls and seeing them out with others is enough to make your emotions go wild.

Some people say they can control their emotions when it comes to break-up sex by not becoming attached or wanting to reconcile. I think that is almost impossible because you’re opening the door for emotions that come with sex and then asking yourself to deny them.

Also, your “booty call” can come to a halt if your ex finds a new mate. Obviously you broke up for a reason, so, eventually, there will be a new boyfriend or girlfriend around the corner to take your place.

Now you’re back to square one: broken up, lonely and horny. “Break-up sex” can show its true colors and it’s not worth it. Let your ex only wish he or she had you back in the bedroom and find yourself a new sex playmate and start from scratch. A fresh start is always the better position.

Shauvon Torres can be reached at [email protected]